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I was talking with my colleague at tea break, and for the first time,she opened up to me and told me her story. I like to share it with all of you.

Mary (not her real name) was a trained nurse, very intelligent and very good at her work. She married her husband who is an engineer. They had a good life in an Asian country, good jobs, nice house and servants to help with housework and minding the children; but there is a demon in the family;he drinks and is a violent alcoholic. Drink consumed his life,he was violent to his wife and his children, and blamed the family for his failure. With recession, he loss his job, more drink, more violenc. She decided to move to Australia,away from the environment; hoping that he would change in a new environment. They reached Australia, and he insisted on stepping on Australian soil first as he said that his wife and his children brought him bad luck, so with him be the first to walk on Australian soil,his luck would change.
They settled in a rented unit, she started to look for job, and he drank...beating up the wife and the kids; she was in turmoil. The children begged her to leave him for they know they would die in his hand. She planned her escape, she packed her bags,left with nothing else, and moved into a refuge with help of crisis care. Away from his put down and the violence, she became strong. Not long after she moved out from the refuge, bought her own house, (borrowed heavily), brought up the kids, 12 year later she divorced her alcoholic husband.

The kids studied well, graduated and are both in good jobs. They both loved and respect their mother,and never blamed her for leaving and "breaking up" the family. They were grateful that she rescued them from violence.

There are many stories such as these, many women fell in the heap, not able to cope with the pressure,some become alcoholic, some are on medication for depression; but many do turned the world around and get on with life;I salute those women.

I do not condemn those who could not cope; it is not easy. What annoyed me is those righteous women who are with their partner(some are not happy with their relationship) making comment such as "one should put up with it, for the sake of the children and the family"; the woman who have the courage to leave the marriage is often being condemn by these group of "righteous" women. I would like to challenge these women and asked them how dare them make comment such as these without knowning the whole truth. By making comment like these, you are committing the unforgiveable crime of pushing the poor abused women deeper into the "black hole" How Dare You!